Reasons Not to Buy the Cofrett Bling Bling

So i recently purchased this set that looked absolutely beautiful. You want to know why NOT to buy it? Scroll down to the pictures of the cuffs.

However the packaging is quite handy....

Ahhh Wishlists.

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The Boyfriend/Girlfriend Trap

So I have been talking a lot with my single friends and the one thing that I really notice is that they all seem to be desperately searching for a partner. Now many of these people proclaim that they love the single life, they aren't looking for a relationship, and they want to make better decisions the next time around. LIARS! All of them. Every time a person of the opposite sex (or the same sex in some cases) approaches them and offers themselves as an opportunity the response is rarely negative. People! Being horny is no excuse for wasting your lives in bad relationships! Everybody needs to take some time to breathe at the end of a relationship, to become reacquainted with who THEY are outside of a partnership, what their strengths and weaknesses are, what they need and want to work on and what their goals are. The problem is that libidos don't just lie in wait, until it is convenient for us to be horny. Our bodies and brains trick us into thinking that we NEED somebody to be with, for sex, for love, or just for human contact.

As often as I have heard my friends complain about wanting a better relationship the next time around, I see them enter into a relationship on impulse. They go into relationships knowing hardly anything about the other person, and they give them TONS of leeway almost always resulting in them being hurt. Everybody is so damn concerned about getting laid and being in a happy coupled relationship, that they pay no attention to what they are actually doing and how far from that they are actually putting themselves. Granted not every relationship ends badly, but from what I have seen, for a relationship to have any kind of success, the people need to know each other fairly well, and have seen how the other behaves in social settings and in their own homes. They either have some SOLID background on their prospective partner, or they recognize the warning signals and end it BEFORE it goes badly. The people who have the highest rate of failure are often the people with the lowest self esteem. They are so willing to look past the other persons faults that they can't see the forest for the trees, so to speak. Having your own faults is not a good reason for excusing somebody being a jerk, the only thing that it IS a good reason for, is working on your own faults in order to become a better person and being more comfortable with yourself.

My advice to those out there, looking for love, or not, is this: Get to know yourself, love yourself, do something just for YOU and start working towards who you want to become before you focus your attention on somebody else. You can hardly expect to be able to function properly in a relationship, when you don't know who you are or what you want. These are the situations in which people behave on impulse, analyze and criticize themselves and never fully understand why they are doing what they are doing. You can not know where you stand with somebody, or where they stand with you, if you have no idea what you want or expect out of a relationship. You have to figure out what you are looking for, and what you are willing to give up, before you settle for less, and give up your dreams for somebody who will never make you truly happy.

24k Gold Vibrator? I THINK SO!

So there is this contest for a 24k gold vibrator by Jimmyjane, I can't speak for anybody else but all I want for Christmas is the Jimmyjane Little Gold. This little beauty is obviously the creme de la creme of vibrators. Made by a highly reputable manufacturer, and out of GOLD no less this gorgeous vibrator is just the thing to cheer me up right before I enter into a divorce with my estranged husband. Not to mention the fact that it will put a smile on my face after a day of chasing 2 small children around the apartment as they destroy everything from carpeting to upholstery after ingesting no less than half a box of Oreo cookies. UGH. There is no place in which you can keep a box of cookies safe from a 4 yr old.

I discovered this contest on a website which hosts some rather engaging sex toy reviews. I highly recommend reading through them as the writer is both talented and witty;). You should at the very least get a kick out of quotes like “I have the golden vibrator, motherfucker?!”.

Now, if you are reading this and have a certain somebody special in your life, whether that somebody is your partner or your vagina, enter this contest. I ORDER YOU. After all it's Christmas, so get your shit together!

Christmas Shopping

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An Introduction

As a child I felt like my family was full of freaks. Everybody else I knew had entirely heterosexual, totally normal  immediate and extended family. I grew up in a family with 2 bisexual daughters, 2 gay uncles, a lesbian cousin and a lot of questions. I was raised believing that sex and sexuality were things to be respected and accepted thought not necessarily discussed. The discussions we did have were awkward and the information very haphazard.

I however am curious by nature, so naturally I found places to research and discover as much about sex as I could. Libraries, friends, friends siblings... etc. In highschool I received  a 98%  in sexual education, and I have been in and out of enough relationships in the last 10 years to have practiced what I have learned and realized that I know very little.

At almost 30 I know more about my body, and sex than many many women my age.  Yet I still feel like I have just chipped away at surface of what there is to know, and I know I am not the only one. For anybody who is interested in learning a little more I hope I prove to be an invaluable resource, as I share what I know, and what I  learn along my journey, with you.